Many people dont know about the financial advantages of being in a relationship while remaining unmarried. They don’t seem to recognize that being single, which I take to mean NOT being in a long-term relationship, has its own set of financial challenges and advantages.
That said, the article is a good basic list of the perks for unmarried couples.
The five main advantages they cite are liability, debt, survivor’s benefits, taxes, and children. Here are summaries of the points raised, and my reactions.
1. Liability
If you’re married, you’re both in hot water if one of you gets sued. Being legally single, even if you consider yourselves partners, means your assets don’t get lumped in with your spouse’s if he or she loses a lawsuit.
2. Credit and debt concerns
If you’re married, it’s pretty hard not to take on responsibility for your honey’s debt. If you’re unmarried, and keep separate accounts, you’re not saying “I do” to someone else’s credit mistakes.You can always run a free credit report on them before making the big decision to commit together.

How does it affect your FICO Score?
3. Survivor’s benefits
This is only a benefit if you’ve been married before and want your Social Security payouts to be based on your ex’s earnings. If your new sweetie has earned less money than your ex, this might be advantageous.
But in general, survivor’s benefits are a huge reason TO get married, especially if you have a child. If you’re married and your spouse dies, your kid gets checks until he or she comes of age, and you get checks as well to help you support your minor child. If you’re unmarried, any child you have with the deceased still gets survivor benefits, but as an unmarried spouse you get zilch. Stay unmarried if you like, but make your life insurance decisions based on the knowledge that Uncle Sam will be really stingy if your spouse dies, leaving you with children to raise.
The article does bring up some good points about Medicare eligibility that I hadn’t considered before. If you don’t want your personal assets to be counted when your spouse is applying for Medicare coverage, you’re better off being unmarried.
4. Taxes
If you’re married, it’s harder to qualify for a Roth IRA if you make three figures (a problem which, unfortunately, I do not face). In addition, you get less tax credits if you’re married filing jointly, especially if you have a kid. In my case, I get the Earned Income Credit AND the Addt’l Child Tax Credit. This is because the IRS considers me a single mom, even tho, as my seven-year-old neighbor puts it, “my baby has a daddy”.
Still, there are major tax benefits to being married if one spouse earns significantly more than the other.
5. Children
The article points out that college financial aid forms ask for data on the child’s mother and father. If you’re a same sex couple, where do you put the second parent’s data? The article makes it sound like you’d be unethical if you left the second parent’s data off the form, but I ask you, where are you supposed to put it? If those FAFSA people don’t like having half of the family’s earning power left off the applications, they should bloody well change the language on the form.
If you have kids from a previous relationship, the article says you may want to consider remaining unmarried so your new spouse doesn’t get all your worldly goods when you die. I don’t think this is a good argument for or against getting married. Rather, it’s a reminder that all of us, married or not, need to make sure we have updated wills. Do you want your precious nest egg to be frittered away in probate costs and taxes? No. You want your spouse (unmarried or otherwise), your kids, even your neices and nephews, to enjoy your hard-earned money after you’re gone.









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